Cohabitation Before Marriage
Topic 1: The practice of cohabitating before marriage is becoming increasingly common in our society, especially among the youth. Discuss the advantages and disadvantages for young people who decide to do this. Many people wonder whether or not they should live together before getting married.
There are many different views when it comes to this question and some of them lie in religion, ethics or realism. Nonetheless, like everything in this life, there are two sides of a problem.
Hence, the advantages and disadvantages of cohabitation will be discussed in depth as follows: The first and foremost reason is that living together before marriage is a good way for people to find out whether they would be compatible marriage partners. Knowing the partner is not the same as living with him or her. Dating just from time to time, partners are on their best behaviour, they avoid confrontation because they are eager to have someone love them and insecure in the temporary relationship.
Moreover, this super nice behaviour may partly account for the radical changes in behaviour, personality and attitudes (almost always for worse) that sometimes occurs shortly after marriage. In addition, shacking up with somebody is a total different experience. People can get the full picture about who they are. If both partners are not ready yet for marriage but want a steady partner, living together offers obvious advantages. It can be real life learning experience of loving and adjusting on equal terms with another person.
It is just one of many possible “tests” for a potential partner. The best predictor of good marriage is a long, relatively smooth relationship, in which wide variety of problems and successes are experienced. Living together measures the couple’s strengths and weaknesses in such areas as; communication, personality, expectations, leisure activities, conflict resolutions, financial management, parenting etc… Cohabitation provides a great opportunity for couples to get to know each other better, learn communication, decision-making, prepare for marriage and prevent future problems.
On the other hand, cohabitation are often criticized by the old generation. Many times, a couple who lives together before becoming married can upset their families or friends who have strict religious beliefs. If these families or friends are the soon-to-be bride or groom’s parents, this can create a rift in the family which can be difficult to repair. However, some families are fine with a situation like this. Think of how your family or your partner’s family would feel about the situation before doing anything and decide how it will affect the family relationship.
Another disadvantage of living together before marriage is that you lose the excitement and thrill the ‘honeymoon’ will bring. When you have already lived with someone and gotten to know their actions and habits, the time after the wedding will not be as exciting. However, this is not always a bad thing. If losing the excitement before you’re even married frightens you, you may not want to live together before marriage. No one can insure that it is better or not to live with someone before getting married him or her. Do what is good for you and be responsible for everything you made.